PinnedDarlene LancerinNarcissism and Abusive RelationshipsDisabling Abusers’ Favorite Weapon: ProjectionNarcissists’ and abusers’ main defense is projection. Understanding it and learning to confront empowers you and protects your self-esteem.·5 min read·Oct 21, 2019--23--23
Darlene LancerinNarcissism and Abusive RelationshipsAre Narcissists Born or Made?Narcissists can be vexing, but research on narcissism shows they didn’t choose to be that way; they bear wounds of parenting and genetics.·4 min read·1 day ago----
Darlene LancerinNarcissism and Abusive Relationships12 Strategies to Deal with Aggressive and Defensive PeopleAggressive individuals thrive on provoking and escalating conflict. Read 12 strategies for communicating with them.·4 min read·Apr 23, 2024--1--1
Darlene LancerinRelationships 101What It’s Like to Be a DistancerPursuer-Distancer relationships are painful and typical of codependents. Understand a distancer to not take their behavior personally.·5 min read·Apr 3, 2024----
Darlene LancerinNarcissism and Abusive RelationshipsThe Narcissist’s False SelfNarcissists are master illusionists. They behave like a king or queen — whether bragging or sulking. This persona masks what they really are·3 min read·Mar 1, 2024----
Darlene LancerinNarcissism and Abusive RelationshipsHow Common Are the Worst Narcissists?Sociopathic narcissists like Trump make news but nearly half of marriages to narcissists last. What’s the difference? What are they like?·4 min read·Feb 22, 2024--3--3
Darlene LancerinRelationships 101Are You Emotionally Unavailable? Read 10 Signs You Might BeIt hurts to be unable to get close to a loved one, but it may hide your own emotional unavailability. Hidden intimacy fears make it safer.·3 min read·Feb 18, 2024----
Darlene LancerinRelationships 101The Rollercoaster of Loving an Addict or AlcoholicIn 2022, 48.7 million people had a substance use disorder. Addiction harms everyone involved. It’s painful but there is help and hope.·4 min read·Feb 9, 2024--1--1
Darlene LancerinRelationships 101One Common Trait that Predicts Relationship FailuresOur beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and personality all impact our communicaton and relationships, but one factor can predict their longevity.·5 min read·Feb 7, 2024--1--1
Darlene LancerinBecoming YouThe Signs and Trauma of Being a Parentified ChildUnrecognized trauma can result when a child assumes an adult role due to a parent’s absence, illness, or neglect. Read the signs and effect.·3 min read·Feb 4, 2024--2--2