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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships

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Disabling Abusers’ Favorite Weapon: Projection

Projection is a defense mechanism commonly used by abusers, including people with narcissistic or borderline personality disorder and addicts. Basically, they say, “It’s not me, it’s you!” When we project, we are defending ourselves against unconscious impulses or traits, either positive or negative, that we’ve denied in ourselves. Instead we…

Narcissism

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Disabling Abusers’ Favorite Weapon: Projection
Disabling Abusers’ Favorite Weapon: Projection
Narcissism

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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships

·Apr 30

How Covert Narcissists Differ from Grandiose Narcissists

We can all spot those charming, attention-seeking extroverts whose vanity and boldness can be obnoxious and shameless. These are grandiose narcissists. Covert narcissism is a lesser-known type of narcissism (also referred to as closet, introverted, or vulnerable narcissism). …

Narcissism

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How Covert Narcissists Differ from Grandiose Narcissists
How Covert Narcissists Differ from Grandiose Narcissists
Narcissism

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Relationships 101

·Apr 1

Parental Alienation

Parental alienation — when one parent turns children against the other during a divorce — causes serious mental health repercussions to the targeted parent and alienated children even into adulthood, including CPTSD, depression, self-loathing (shame), low self-esteem, and marital, parenting, and relationship problems. …

Domestic Violence

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Parental Alienation
Parental Alienation
Domestic Violence

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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships

·Mar 22

Three Secret Behaviors of Narcissists

Narcissists’ entire personality is a defense to help them manage their hidden insecurity and inner turmoil. There are three hidden things they do that aren’t immediately obvious, but if you think about them, they will make sense to you and explain narcissists’ manifest behavior. These behaviors stem from core symptoms…

Narcissism

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Three Secret Behaviors of Narcissists
Three Secret Behaviors of Narcissists
Narcissism

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Relationships 101

·Mar 16

The One

You are the one I want to love To be the smile that greets my heart Who hears my secret dreams And who sees inside my soul. You are the one I give delight, Whose touch is tender in the night, Whose holy passion knows no height. You are the…

Poetry

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The One
The One
Poetry

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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships

·Mar 14

How Narcissists Play Mental Chess

To “know your enemy” is essential in dealing with a manipulator. Manipulation may be overt, such as threats, intimidation, blaming, and shaming, or it may be hidden, veiled aggression. Narcissists and sociopaths can be especially dangerous. Good social skills allow them to make a good initial first impression. They’re engaging…

Narcissism

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How Narcissists Play Mental Chess
How Narcissists Play Mental Chess
Narcissism

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Becoming You

·Mar 8

The Problems of Imposter Syndrome

Have you ever felt like an imposter or fraud? You’re not alone. Particularly in a professional setting, people may have this feeling, but lack the words to describe what’s called imposter syndrome. It means feeling like a fraud due to self-doubt and lack of confidence. It stems from low self-esteem…

Imposter Syndrome

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The Problems of Imposter Syndrome
The Problems of Imposter Syndrome
Imposter Syndrome

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Becoming You

·Feb 19

Healing Trauma and Your Inner Child

We all have an “inner child,” which is an unconscious archetype coined by Carl Jung. It holds our vulnerability, spontaneity, creativity, curiosity, and magical ideas. It also holds fears, anxiety, shame, loneliness, trauma, and insecurity experienced growing up. Our inner child manifests through our beliefs and actions and can have…

Healing

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Healing Trauma and Your Inner Child
Healing Trauma and Your Inner Child
Healing

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Becoming You

·Feb 19

Sunset by the Sea

No words can woo a restful peace As does sunset by the sea. The sun enlightens an iridescent path along the water That stems from shore to sky. Like the water to its sides, Shadows soon invade the golden path and slowly snuff its glitter Until it disappears into waters…

Existentialism

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Sunset by the Sea
Sunset by the Sea
Existentialism

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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships

·Feb 15

Managing a Narcissistic Relationship

If you’ve been emotionally abandoned or abused in a close relationship, whether with a parent, sibling, or lover, love may feel out of reach. Do you vacillate between hope and pain, love and resentment, and staying or cutting off contact? Living together breeds hurt, resentment, and anxiety as you grow…

Narcissism

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Managing a Narcissistic Relationship
Managing a Narcissistic Relationship
Narcissism

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Darlene Lancer

Darlene Lancer

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Therapist-Author of “Codependency for Dummies,” relationship expert. Get a FREE 14 Tips on Letting Go http://bit.ly/MN2jSG. Join me on FB http://on.fb.me/WnMQMH

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