There are several types of narcissists, all of whom have varying traits and personalities. For years researchers have been searching for a single trait they have in common. Two different teams arrived at different conclusions. The Grandiose Narcissist Although there are different degrees and types of narcissism, for years research mainly focused on…

A lack of empathy is not sufficient for a diagnosis of narcissism but it underlies several narcissistic traits, such as arrogance, entitlement, and being exploitative. On the other hand, a lack of empathy can be associated with borderline personality disorder, autism, bipolar disorder, and sociopathy, as well as more benign…

How can someone feel both love and hate in the same week or even hour or be devoted for years and then cut off all good memories? This happens easily to people with narcissistic or borderline personality disorders and is called splitting, first coined by Freud. It starts in infancy…

Narcissists are illusionists. They behave like a little king or queen — whether bragging or sulking. Their whole personality is a charade crafted to deceive you into believing they are confident, superior, self-sufficient, likable, and caring. In studies, groups of people met with and liked a narcissist, but after 6…

There’s a lot of confusion around “narcissism” and being a narcissist. It takes more than arrogance and selfishness. Also, many people are unable to empathize for reasons other than narcissism. Notice aggression isn’t even on the list. So be careful who you call a narcissist. For a diagnosis, you only…

I thought the ocean too cold to swim. But dip my hand slowly in. Surprised to find the sun had warmed the Winter water.

At 6:00 p.m. I greet Pete at my door. “I’m on time and keep my word,” he crows, We dine, recline, and stretch our feet across my coffee table. “It’s too bright in here,” he claims. So ‘round his toes I veer to switch from lamp to candlelight. While Pete…

When Kay in our meeting was dying of ALS, she taught us so much about the spirit and that we are more than our bodies.

Where are you going? Where have you been? Looking ever outward, Looking deep within. Leaving yourself behind. Hoping for the future, Digging in the past, Seeking truth and explanations, Finding answers that don’t last. Now and then you stop to rest, With worry and despair, Asking others who know best, Wanting lovers who…