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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships

Disabling Abusers’ Favorite Weapon: Projection

Narcissists’ and abusers’ main defense is projection. Understanding it and learning to confront empowers you and protects your self-esteem.

Oct 21, 2019

Disabling Abusers’ Favorite Weapon: Projection

Oct 21, 2019

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Relationships 101

Hidden Truths About Relationships

Codependents’ problems in relationships start before they begin! Because they’re blind to the truth, their behavior worsens their plight.

11h ago

Hidden Truths About Relationships

11h ago

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Becoming You

How to Recover from Trauma

To recover from childhood and relationship trauma, follow these steps. We can make progress recovering from codependency on our own.

Jun 3

How to Recover from Trauma

Jun 3

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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships

Are Narcissists Born or Made?

Narcissists can be vexing, but research on narcissism shows they didn’t choose to be that way; they bear wounds of parenting and genetics.

May 4

Are Narcissists Born or Made?

May 4

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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships

12 Strategies to Deal with Aggressive and Defensive People

Aggressive individuals thrive on provoking and escalating conflict. Read 12 strategies for communicating with them.

Apr 23

12 Strategies to Deal with Aggressive and Defensive People

Apr 23

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Relationships 101

What It’s Like to Be a Distancer

Pursuer-Distancer relationships are painful and typical of codependents. Understand a distancer to not take their behavior personally.

Apr 3

What It’s Like to Be a Distancer

Apr 3

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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships

The Narcissist’s False Self

Narcissists are master illusionists. They behave like a king or queen — whether bragging or sulking. This persona masks what they really are

Mar 1

The Narcissist’s False Self

Mar 1

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Narcissism and Abusive Relationships

How Common Are the Worst Narcissists?

Sociopathic narcissists like Trump make news but nearly half of marriages to narcissists last. What’s the difference? What are they like?

Feb 22

How Common Are the Worst Narcissists?

Feb 22

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Relationships 101

Are You Emotionally Unavailable? Read 10 Signs You Might Be

It hurts to be unable to get close to a loved one, but it may hide your own emotional unavailability. Hidden intimacy fears make it safer.

Feb 18

Are You Emotionally Unavailable? Read 10 Signs You Might Be

Feb 18

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Relationships 101

The Rollercoaster of Loving an Addict or Alcoholic

In 2022, 48.7 million people had a substance use disorder. Addiction harms everyone involved. It’s painful but there is help and hope.

Feb 9

The Rollercoaster of Loving an Addict or Alcoholic

Feb 9

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Darlene Lancer

Therapist-Author of “Codependency for Dummies,” relationship expert. Get a FREE 14 Tips on Letting Go http://bit.ly/MN2jSG. Join me on FB http://on.fb.me/WnMQMH

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